How to Have Better Conversations

How to Have Better Conversations

Often times we fail to communicate because we have our own opinions and are mostly self interested. We aren’t looking to learn something new.
Also, we fail to see others as having been influenced by a number of environmental and genetic factors, leaving us to blame them for some personal malevolent agenda.
But in reality, we are all influenced by things we live, read, hear, see, and otherwise experience, but we fail to do a double-check to see how accurate our impressions and opinions actually are.
If we take a step back to first assess ourselves, then to assess others and have a deeper understanding of where they are at, we can start to connect better and bridge gaps through language.
An example, someone might feel very strong about something you might not care too much about. If you take time to understand why it is so important to them and how it fits into their life, you can have a better understanding not only of them, but also of the conversation and how to communicate. Also, if you relate back to the objective of your conversation or lives, or in the context of business, you can then map out where the values and priorities of each other fit into the overall accomplishments of the goals.
By doing this, you can get a higher view of where you’re each at, why you think the way you think, and what you’re trying to accomplish, then you can begin to ask qustions or at least seek alignment on certain topics before moving forward. That way, you can ensure you bring each other along rather than just speaking yoru position at each other.  
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